The drama with young girls seems to be getting younger and younger. I have been dreading the thought of my 10 year old starting middle school next year, but never did I think that my 4 year old would face the cattiness that goes on in preschool! She tells me how this one won't be her friend today or this other one said she will be her best friend tomorrow. She says she wants a best friend but is not sure who to pick. Are you serious? They are four! I never thought I would be explaining this to a 4 year old. If it is starting now, what am I in for when she starts middle school! Why is it that girls can be so catty. This holds true even for grown women. Everyone says a guy will just duke it out and be done with it. We girls and women tend to make more out of things and look more into things than we should. This is one department where we would all benefit from thinking like a guy! How do you teach your girls to deal with the drama?
I have to recommend a great book I read recently about this very subject. Check it out: Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and the New Realities of Girl World
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There are two girls in my daughter's dance class that have proclaimed they are "bff"s. "She's my BFF" the more annoying one skips around saying. My daughter reports that they won't even talk to her during class and if she approaches them they will turn their backs on her. I blame the fact that they are almost six and their mothers are the same way!
The most disappointing part of my life is that those people that acted like that as kids are still that way as adults. There are small areas of improvement - most people are more discreet, but the personality type is the same.
I just tell my kid to be nice to everyone. That's something I should have done when I was a kid and I hope I can help her do right!
I work with Jr. HIgh girls & oh mercy - DRAMA is THE Middle name of all of them!!!!
But I really try to encourage & let them know the best thing they can do is have confidence in themselves to steer away from it all... it may bother them but they cant let the people see that in them... just keep the face & attitude of a "peace" keeper & that helps diffuse the situation a lot of times. Drama grows when its fed... the key is not to feed into it!.... Good luck with that... Drama with girls is inevitable! How they react makes all the difference!
Our school district built a new high school this year and in connection with that, rearranged the middle school and jr. high. My 10 year old is in the middle school now. It's such a change. It's maddening and heart breaking all at the same time. It's so hard to talk to her because I can tell that she really does believe that her life hangs in the balance of some of this insanity. Finding the middle road between understanding and blowing it off is so hard! I try to tell her to think about what makes a good friend. If someone puts limitations on their friendship with you then she probably needs to rethink the whole thing.
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